Introduction to Emotions

Emotions are entirely natural. They are simple cues to tell you what you need. 

Like an itch, or a rumbly tummy or an uncomfortably full bladder.

Our bodies know how to tell us what we need. We have forgotten (or never learned) that this is true when it comes to emotions. 

You will learn that we have four primary emotions:

  1. Sad
  2. Angry
  3. Frightened
  4. Joyful 

You will learn that just like colours, they can blend together to form other emotions (like excitement which is made from fear and joy, just as purple is made from blue and red).

You will learn what each emotion is caused by and what it prompts you to do (just as with a rumbly tummy, hunger is caused by not eating for a while and prompts you to do so).

You will learn that unresolved emotions hang around and keep showing up until we meet the need, and that sometimes they cause trouble (imagine not doing the thing an uncomfortable bladder tells you to do!). 

You will also learn how our thinking, feeling and behaviour can be complex around emotion.

In most families, we are uncomfortable about feeling or expressing at least one of the four primary emotions.

We are usually attracted to friends and partners who share our aversion to the emotion we are uncomfortable with. If we have children with someone who we share discomfort with – about being either sad, angry, frightened or joyful – we will teach this discomfort to our children and they will live with it in their lives just as we did.

You will learn how we manage this discomfort and how this leads to confusion and psychological games.

Recommended Reading

Achieving Emotional Literacy